A Parent's Guide to Supervising a Child's Online and Internet Experience

Online Children's Safety

© Copyright 1997, Robert Cannon. May be freely copied in full. Credit to the author must be retained. No fee may be charged for the distribution of this FAQ.

What is the Internet?

The Internet is a global, decentralized network of computers taking advantage of common protocols permitting the transfer of information. No individual, company or government controls the Internet. The most frequently used areas of the Internet are the World Wide Web, e-mail, USENET newsgroups, FTP, and the IRC.

The World Wide Web is the multimedia area of the Internet. A WWW page can look like a magazine page. WWW browsers permit users to view text, photographs, audio, and video. Individuals can also access data and programs. WWW sites can be found by typing a few key words into a search engine and, within seconds, receiving a list of sites containing those words. Punch in the word "playboy" and you will get a list of the "Playboy Magazine" web pages and of other sites that contain the word "Playboy".

FTP stands for File Transfer Protocol. FTP sites are directories of files of all types. These files can be in any form and can be found with search engines. The difference from the WWW is that FTP files are not readily viewable or usable; the files must be downloaded and then viewed or used through the appropriate software programs.

E-mail is electronic mail through which users can exchange messages. Although normally e-mail messages are text, messages can include pictures or sound files. E-mail addresses of users can be readily attained through different search engines and online databases.

The USENET is a bulletin board area of the Internet. Individuals post messages and browse for responses at unmoderated USENET sites. The messages normally remain on the bulletin board for a limited time period. Individuals search for the most appropriate bulletin board for the subject desired. At a given site hundreds of messages will be posted about that subject. Messages can also be posted which are irrelevant to the subject. Messages can be text, programs, sound files, or pictures.

A Listserver is a cross between E-mail and USENET. It is an e-mail discussion group dedicated to a particular topic. Messages sent to the listserver are then broadcast out to all of the subscribers. Some Listservers are moderated where others are not. People not subscribed to a listserver generally are unable to view the content of the discussion of the subscribers. Listservers are usually composed of a core group active in discussion and a periphery group known as "lurkers" who read the list but rarely participate in the discussion.

The IRC is the "real-time" live, unmoderated chat rooms. Each room has a name that may relate to the subject matter discussed. A user can usually find an IRC chat room on virtually any subject. Again, even though a subject matter is designated, messages on any subject matter can be posted.

Supervising Your Child

Most parents complain that their children are more computer literate then they are (parents argue that they are still attempting to figure out how to program their VCRs). They cannot comprehend how they can possibly supervise their child's experience on the Internet. What follows is a list of suggestions that should help. Not all of these suggestions may be acceptable to you. Which suggestions you use will depend in part in your belief in your child's right to privacy and ability to make mature decisions. This FAQ provides parents with an ability to make choices.

Parent must always remember the investment that they have made, both in the child and in the computer. If they commit the time necessary for such a significant investment, parents can make their child's experience both positive, productive, and educational.

1. Keep the family computer in a family room. Place it where you can watch and participate in your child's activities.
2. Spend time with your child both online and off line. If online material is offensive to you, take the time to teach your child your values. Explain to your child why you believe the material is wrong and the harm you believe that it might cause.
3. Purchase a filtering software program. There are a number of programs that filter and block access to adult Internet sites. You can use these programs to assist in your supervision of your child. Be aware that these programs may also filter out material which you find desirable.
• Cyber Patrol http://www.cyberpatrol.com
• Net Nanny http://www.netnanny.com/
• Net Shepherd http://shepherd.net/
• Safesurf http://www.safesurf.com/
• Surfwatch http://www.surfwatch.com/


Other resources you may wish to consult include

• Bess, the Internet Retriever http://bess.net/
• Positive Parenting On- Line
• Ethics of student drivers on the Information Infobahn
4. Monitor your credit card bill. Many adult Internet sites require credit cards in order to gain access. If your credit card is used, you should have a record of it.
5. Inquire into child accounts. Some online services have special accounts especially geared for children, with restricted access to chat rooms and the Internet.
6. Tell your child not to play with strangers. The Internet version of this means never tell a stranger personal information. Teach your child to never give out your address, your phone number, or any personal information.

Some individuals desire to harm children. Others seek to gather market research, raising privacy concerns. These people entice children to their site with graphics and games. These sites can be packed with advertisements. They may reward children for providing personal information, their likes and dislikes, and information concerning their friends. They may e-mail your child with more advertisements, request more information, and request that they return to their advertisement laden sites.

Some services set up user profiles when setting up accounts. This information can be accessed by the public through commands such as WHOIS. Be careful when setting up accounts that the information provided will not be publicly available.

7. Introduce new friends to mom and dad first. If your child has made an online friend and would like to get to know that person better, ask your child to introduce the friend to you first. Many quality relationships can be formed in this new environment if the proper precautions are taken.
8. Use a Nick Name . When entering chat rooms, bulletin boards and other public rooms, encourage your child to pick out and use a favor nick name distinct from their real name. This is a regular practice on the IRC and permits a nice level of anonymity, allowing users to learn more about each other only when and if they and their parents are ready. Remember that others will be less than honest about their identity as well.
9. Big Brother Is Watching. Everywhere you go on the Internet, you leave information about yourself. When a user posts to USENET, IRC Chat Rooms, or Listservers, the user reveals his or her e-mail address, creating a way for people to contact the user. In addition, different Web sites collect information known as "cookies." This is personal information related to your Internet Account including your name, your address, your phone number, and even, if set up incorrectly, your credit card number. Be careful where you leave your information. Ask you Internet Service Provider how to turn your "cookies" off. Also look for the "E-Trust" symbol. This is a voluntary standard set up by the Electronic Frontier Foundation whereby Web pages agree that they will not collect information about you when you visit their site.
10. Report suspicious activity. Some conduct is illegal in both the real and the virtual world. If someone is stalking or harassing your child, keep copies and records of the messages and let the authorities know. You may also wish to notify the systems administrator of both your service and the service from which the message was transmitted. The Department of Justice has a special unit set up to specifically address computer and Internet crimes.

The Internet is a wonderful new opportunity for children. As with everything, the quality of a child's experience will be directly related to a parent's investment in that experience. If you take the time, you can make that experience positive and productive.

Author welcomes suggestions and comments. Software products listed for informational purposes only; no endorsement has been made or should be implied.